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Therapist Heal Thyself

Like many therapists, you most likely got selfinto the business because you have a passion for what you do. You enjoy the work, making or facilitating change for those souls who have been drawn to see you. You may have even been drawn to do this because of your own experiences.

Who looks after you when things go awry or pear-shaped?

If you are in an association, you will have regular supervision and you should be able to chat to your supervisor about how you are feeling. Difficult feelings or strong emotions may surface during a supervision session and this makes it difficult to reflect on how well you might be working with your clients. If the issue is very personal, then the supervisor should set the boundaries and suggest that you see a counsellor or another therapist.

Often, the Universe provides a solution and I have found this to be true. I’ve had a spate of family, friends and acquaintances die in a short period of time. Three in less than three months in fact. These events triggered residual grief about previous loss and I wasn’t in the best space to take clients, so the Universe cancelled them! I took myself off to my therapist and after a couple of sessions for myself…. the clients rescheduled and I was able to be in a space that I held entirely for them.

Part of the reflective process is to ask yourself better questions:

  • How am I feeling right now?…… this includes identifying any feelings that you may not have previously acknowledged or expressed
  • Does this remind me of anything/someone and what is it I would do or say?……..use gestalt, Parts Therapy, Ego State therapy to take stock of the situation.
  • Can I see a pattern in what’s happening?…… sometimes difficult to do on your own, but writing it down or making a mind map can give you clarity.

Start the work on yourself, continue the exploration with your own therapist and check in with your supervisor and you might just find you are understanding not only yourself, but your clients a little better and in turn, becoming a more effective therapist.


How to conjure up fear and anxiety with one simple word


Time flies
There is nothing more tragic than to see respected therapists reacting badly at the word supervision. It’s as if they have suddenly been transported back to a very early childhood experience where they are standing outside the Principal’s Office for an imagined misdemeanor.
Watch them puff up and bristle ….

listen to the comments….”I don’t need to report to anyone what I am doing”, “It’s the association gouging more money from me”, ” I don’t need anyone telling me what to do” and so on…..
Perhaps if the word supervision was substituted by any or all of the following:

  • supporting
  • mentoring
  • guiding
  • suggesting
  • guiding

then there wouldn’t be the emotional response that is currently being observed amongst many hypnotherapists, newly required to have regular supervision.

Here is a definition of Supervision 

and another

and another

With many Hypnotherapists also familiar with NLP, it’s time for a reframe. To take a leaf out of one of Tony Robbins books, they should be familiar with CANI (Constant and Never ending Improvement)

” CANI is a true discipline. It can’t just be practiced every once in a while, when you feel like it. it must be a constant commitment backed up by action.¬† The essence of CANI is gradual, even minute, continuous improvement that over the long term sculpts a masterpiece of colossal proportions……

Many people never feel secure because they are always worried that they will either lose their job, lose the money they already have, lose their spouse, lose their health and so on. The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day you are improving yourself in some way, that you are increasing the calibre of who you are and that you are valuable to your company, your friends and your family.”